It was back in August 2017, when I asked my cousin on my mom's side to do a DNA test for me. I was getting suspicious if Mr. Hasenstab was really my mom's father. You know, some people are really into keeping family secrets - I don't get them. Like really, who cares anymore? I really had to BEG him and he reluctantly agreed and made me promise that after he does this, he never wanted to hear from me again.
Okay. There was no love lost - He grew up in Ohio and I was raised in California. I only saw him a couple of times in my life. No biggie. When someone says something that rude - I could have got all butt-hurt about it if I had sat down to really think about it. I didn't. I had work to do. I had to find my new family.
So, what I found is a family with the surname of Leach. Mom was half right. The DNA is there. This modern Leach family - just ignore this new revelation. So what else is new? But there is no doubt about it - Charles Monroe Leach was my mom's bio-father. DNA has proved it.
I did connect with a cousin, who was adopted so she knows about as much as I do and of course, no one will connect with her. They would rather live in their own dream world rather than attempt to understand that life happens and sometimes babies are born because of it - and these fatherless children are raised by single mothers or adopted out. It's not like we want their family riches if there were any. We just want to be acknowledged. No apologies are necessary. All parties involved at this stage are dead and buried.
I am piecing together a family I do not know - hate to say it - a pretty basic blah family except for the fact that one of the Leach men, had a moment of whatever it was, he had with my Grandma - and my mom was conceived. There does not seem to be an indication that there was any form of relationship. I am still researching.
It does blow me away, that Mom did tell me his name was Peter Leech from Northern Ireland. I don't know if she made that up or if her Mom made that up to tell her. So many lies - so much deception. I am thankful for my good memory!
I am so DONE with the Hasenstab family. Yeah, I wasted a lot of years researching, and while it did not benefit me - it did go on to benefit others in that family as I did break through a few brick walls for them. I also racked up some valuable experience.
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